The Accent of Leadership Blogs: You Offended Bro?

“Accents are recognizable right away. There is an accent in leadership. You can recognize quite quickly if one has it or not. These leadership blogs are written to enhance the accent.”

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Luke 17:1, “Then said he unto the disciples, It is impossible but offences will come:”

The spirit of offense may possibly be the greatest tool the enemy uses to break up godly ties. Jesus gave His disciples warning when He said, “offenses will come…”

The definition of the word offense:

  • Something that causes one to be hurt, upset or angry
  • The act of stumbling
  • The act of feeling attacked
  • The act of feeling displeased or insulted

Again, Jesus said this is going to happen. It is impossible to live a life where you won’t at times want to feel this way. This blog is for leaders and believe me leader, you will have the opportunity to be offended by people! There will be seasons where it will present itself quite often.

How we handle this will determine many things in our leadership and personal development. If our buttons are easily pushed and it ruins our day, maybe God is revealing that the problem is within us and needs to be worked on.

Most may be surprised if I tell you that some of the biggest church divisions, divorces, life long enmity all began with small and tiny seeds of offense. The spirit (attitude) of offense is brutal and can divide the closest of hearts.

One of the subtle temptations we all face is to entertain a “Spirit of Offense.” Although very subtle, such a mindset certainly disrupts personal peace and collective unity. Hence, this is a situation, an attitude, a mindset, a spirit we should flee from. A spirit of offense is the opposite of a James 1:19, “be slow to speak, quick to listen, and slow to anger.” Carrying this attitude looks like this: it is quick to speak (including rumors), slow to hear (including not hearing the positive aspects about others), and quick to become angry (or offended).


  1. BE COOL 
    Offense must come. Our Master said that. And there’s no two ways about it. Someone is going to rub you the wrong way. Someone is going to not treat you right. Someone is going to try and push you around. Remember you are bigger than that to take offense. Sure, they didn’t do right so that’s why you overlook it. To overlook the mistakes or intentions of offense of others and not getting bent out of shape is a sign of great Godly maturity.
    Most of the root causes of offense is the feeling of entitlement. We live in a world where people are taught to fight for their rights. While that is not wrong, however, it spills to taking quicker offense because of not getting what we think we are entitled to get. In the process we forget humility, forgiveness, and love.
    The fact is that at some point, our frailty gets in our way. Bitterness becomes too bitter, ego becomes too hurt, hate reaches its highest degree and humility can get out of immediate reach. We must forgive as we have been forgiven. We must realize that often times people don’t try to offend on purpose. We must put ourselves in other’s shoes and don’t take things so personally.

Keep your bumpers on. People are going to bump into you.
Guard your hearts at all cost and don’t give the devil an inch. Leaders rise above!


ACCENT OF LEADERSHIP: How to Avoid Losing Touch?


“Accents are recognizable right away. There is an accent in leadership. You can recognize quite quickly if one has it or not. These Leadership Blogs are written to Enhance the Accent”light bulb leadership

John Maxwell says that the truest definition of leadership is simply influence. There are those that have positions yet have no influence and then those that have no title yet influence greatly. Leadership’s top quality is the ability to influence. Our passion, connection, communication and heart for our mission and team can make great impact on our teams we lead.

John Maxwell also says this, “He that thinketh he leadeth, and hath no one following, is only taking a walk.” If you’re are not influencing and are alone, are you really leading? Losing touch with your people/team is a huge leadership landmine. It will damage your credibility and destroy your influence.

Let’s talk about how to avoid losing touch? (principles from John Maxwell)

1.Recognize the landmine. Unfortunately, losing touch is an easy thing to do. A leader can be tempted to withdraw by both success (“I don’t need to see my people”) and failure (“I don’t want to see my people”). Understanding that it can happen is the first step to avoiding it. Getting busy and failure to plan can cause us to lose touch as well. We must realize that follow up and connecting is a priority for any leader.

2.Value people. All leadership is influence. And what is influence if it doesn’t involve other people? No matter what your organization produces or does, it needs people to function. WE need people to lead. Leadership becomes effective when we acknowledge that people are our most appreciable asset, and treat them accordingly. A “thank you” goes a long way!

3.Avoid positional thinking. Our position or title shouldn’t define our leadership. That’s positional thinking, and it will cause us to disconnect as a leader. Just because we have a title doesn’t mean we are influencing our team. It’s so important that we stay connected and real. Relationship can influence the heart more than a title.

4.Love the people you lead. Do you see your people as cogs in the machinery of your organization, and yourself as the operator? They can tell if you don’t care about them or value their time, heart and service. Loving your people makes the difference in their willingness to follow you into anything, no matter how hard the battle.

Have you lost touch with those you lead?

If so, what can you do to reconnect today?